Sometimes it's useful to define something by what it's not. In this case, I'm going to explore the concept of self love by looking at the various ways that a lack of self love can manifest behaviorally.
When someone has a healthy degree of self love, it is evident on a behavioral level. Inner feelings, whether conscious or unconscious, elicit outer expression. Whether that outward expression is negative or positive depends upon the inner feelings that triggered the behavior.
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Therefore, the following behaviors can be evidence of a lack of self love. Ironically, these common behaviors are often done in an effort to bolster feelings of self love. Sadly, the efforts usually lead to further self denigration and a perpetuating cycle of self defeating behavior.